Dealing With Gossip

Yesterday I received a message on Myspace from a past friend of mine – who I haven’t seen in many years – that was quite disturbing. They were accusing someone very dear to me of doing something incredibly awful – but they didn’t have the guts to give me any details or proof unless I called them so they could spew over the phone about what they thought they knew. I wanted to throw up when I opened the message – and struggled all day not knowing what to do with this information – because deep down I don’t believe a word of it.

At the end of the day, I knew that God was in control of this and that He doesn’t need my help to deal with anything. So –  I deleted the message and shut down myspace for the night. I absolutely will not entertain gossip or hearsay about people that I love and know that God has put in my life. Come to me with proof and a right spirit or I’ll shut you down in a hot minute…


7 Responses to “Dealing With Gossip”

  1. September 12, 2008 at 6:52 pm


    Wow. Funny, I spent my evening in tears because of this very same thing happening. Only it was regarding me.

    A family member of mine and Anthony’s called me last night blasting me out because of some complete lies that I had supposedly writen about Anthony and his family on my blog in the past two days.

    The family member that called me to blast me out over it, did so, then confessed they had not personally read my words. That another person in the family had my blog and called them on the phone and gave them the info.

    Too late, damage done. And worst, the person that called them, is a known gossip spreader, so I know it won’t stop there and our names are being run in the ground because he and I decided to speak out about our struggle. Oh well.

    Needless to say, before we started this we knew the devil would be seriously ticked off, and……..he is. He hates being being brought to light.

  2. September 12, 2008 at 7:47 pm

    man, that stinks.

    now, if only you could now shut down the myspace in your brain so it doesn’t have to rattle around in there.

    people are really stupid sometimes.

  3. 3 Norma McGee
    September 12, 2008 at 9:27 pm

    You have always been a loyal person who expects others to be loyal even when someone might stumble.

    My strong Abigail has never been a “garbage dump”!!

    Too bad they didn’t tell you in person so they could get the “Abbye look”….


  4. September 13, 2008 at 3:16 am

    I guess I should have just called you to give you that juicy gossip… I kid. I kid.

    I hate gossip.

    If anyone has any gossip to spread about me, I hope they share it with you first. And I hope you video your response so I can watch. Because that would be awesome to watch.

    Since I’m a “senior pastor” now, I should probably add some Bible to my comment. So, here goes…

    A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends. ~ Proverbs 16:28

    Reject a divisive man after the first and second warning –
    knowing that such a person is warped and sinning, being self condemned. ~ Titus 3:10-11

    Now I urge you brethren, note (mark) those who cause division among you…and avoid them (have no fellowship with them). ~ Romans 16:17

    Cast off the scoffer, and contention will leave; yes, strife and reproach will leave. ~ Proverbs 22:10

    I just ripped all of those off from our Membership Class session on Unity. Maybe you should send your gossip friend to our Membership Class… or suggest they read the Bible…

  5. 5 mrshammie
    September 20, 2008 at 5:26 am

    Amen Sista!

  6. September 23, 2008 at 7:28 pm

    Gossip and assuming things about someone else really gets me fired up too. You go, girl, standing your ground! 🙂

  7. 7 Loretta
    June 11, 2009 at 3:20 am

    I was interested in how a Pastor would deal with gossip and googled “pastor dealing with gossip”. I just learned of another casulty in a fundamental Baptist church because a pastor listened to “complaints” of some member and thought it was necessary to beat up a couple with those complaints. I was very disappointed that the complainers were not present when the “complaints” were aired. To me, this is just gossip and another example of how Christians shoot their wounded. How did this help this young couple? They are leaving this church and seeking another in their community that doesn’t entertain gossip. I applaud your stand on not believing the gossip told to you!! I am certain that God is pleased with you, too.

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